Ladies and Raises: Why would anyone give you what you are not asking for?
You’ve been in your role for the better part of a decade and you’ve NEVER asked for a raise. You’ve also never received anything but an annual increase that barely keeps you in line with the cost of living. From your perspective (and likely that of outsiders as well…), you are clearly overdue for a review. Equally qualified peers are leap-frogging over you in terms of career advancement, and you really have no clue why or how it’s happening.
While employers generally do their best to stay atop of the change in your “compensable factors,” I can tell you with certainty, that if you don’t stay on top of your career advancement, no one will. After all, why would anyone give you what you are not asking for?
You’ve always been great at advocating for others-
Family: Kids need to make it to soccer practice? Dinner needs to be cooked? Grocery run? Your family and friends know they can always count on you. You don’t think twice about having to call your office and tell them you are staying home with a sick child.
Work: Your a reliable team contributor and the high quality of your work speaks for itself. Need to pull late nights at the office? Work on weekends to make the deadline? You can be counted on to deliver.
Sadly, when it comes to advocating for ourselves and our salaries, we tend to fall short. We work hard and remain loyal, hoping that one day we will get the recognition we deserve… but we don’t realize that the system is not designed to be as giving as we are.
I don’t believe that there is a one-method-fit-all model to get you what you are not asking for- all industries are different, and all employers have a different culture, and everyone’s relationship with their company is different. What I do know, is that if you don’t know what you are worth, and you don’t know how to ask for it, you are not going to get it.
Because not everyone can afford my services, I’m compiling a free road map to help women:
a) figure out what they are worth (quantitatively)
b) how to develop a unique strategy to negotiate for it
If there are any questions or anecdotes that you think are worth including, email me: